I use a time out method but rarely have to use it. Although, I do NOT use the 1 minute per age thing. They will sit there until either I become calm OR if they are freaking out, they sit until THEY become calm. If that takes 5 minutes, fine but if they are melting down for 20 minutes, they will sit there for that long. A child can not regain composure and reset in only a few minutes (as dcwhisperer said). They need to sit there as long as it takes for them to become normal again. I have used the "go to bed" method before too when it's needed.