thanks for your input Sunny days and i do see your point absolutely, that's part of the reason I posted...because I wanted to know if I was just being "too controlling" or worrying too much? although, this is not the first time I have felt a little "slighted" by them, mostly the Mother. She just doesn't communicate very openly, and I am more concerned that this is the way things will always be...once in a while in the beginning "pop ins" I understand.
This is the same Mom, who tells me she doesn't want her child going anywhere with me, can't take off work to pick up early when I have appt (and asks me to travel with her to drop off at her work) but picks up early out of the blue. Not the first time either, she has picked up a few times at 5pm when her pick up is 5:35. and showed up one day last week at 5 pm, the next day 4:30...i asked "do you have a different pick up time now" she just non-chalantly says: "no, just got off early". I can't help but get a little annoyed at her "free-will" to pick-up when ever. when I have appt's she give me a hard time on having to leave work early, or suggest I drive her daughter to her.....yet, doesn't want me transporting her daughter with me to the school bus or to pick my kids up from practice. Seems more to me like a case of "what's good for the goose, isn't good for the gander"....anyone else picking that up?