Thankyou so much for your input, makes me feel "normal". I was wondering if I was just being too defensive in thinking that I wanted to replace this "mother" ha, not the Dad and not the Child, just the Mom. I have been here before, was just talking to my husband this am about it, been here with two other Mom's in the past, and they didn't work out, as a matter of fact, I confronted them both regarding their "attitudes" and "lack of trust", one quit her job and stayed home (graduated from medical transcription school-which i suggested for her to try) and the other....."screamed" her way out of my house, and I "continued to sweep the floor"...glad when she left. Just so sad to think, the kid is so great, but the Mom is a major witch. Will replace as soon as I find another child. UUUUUGGGH!!!!! thanks guys!