Is Discipline Non-Existent These Days?

[Sandbox Sally]

I just wanted to chime in here:

I think everyone knows by now that I am PRO gentle discipline and ANTI spanking and shaming for discipline methods.

The books and the studies that say that shaming and corporal punishment aren't effective are not flawed - the parents' interpretation of the studies is flawed.

Not spanking/shouting/shaming does NOT equal not disciplining. So much can be done without causing physical pain or humiliation. As I have rambled on and on about on previous threads, I have, first hand, seen many many children who were raised with gentle discipline methods who have turned out to be beautiful, polite, well rounded citizens.

IMO, the real problem here is not the newfangled way of doing things, but rather, lazy parenting being a more common reality these days.

[crafty]

I agree with you Alpha, however I do not beleive it is lazyness. I mean some people have been tought different approches and they lack the knowledge , time and support.

I myself do not spank or yell but I was raised that way.However I had interests in kids and I studied in the social work field so I have tools and I learned to do things differently. But not everyone has been in the same boat. To me if parents are at least doing something and beeing CONSISTENT that's the key. I am very firm with my own kids, I will give them a chance to make amends, I am not afraid of saying no and giving logical consequences to unacceptable behaviours and I will raise my voice because all this has proved very effective for me.

What I think is happenning is we are asking parents to be perfect and have perfect children. If I see someone spank a child or humiliate them yes ofcourse I will cringe ... but honestly who am I to judge them. Because I've read in a book that you are no suppose to do that they are BAD parents ?