Is Discipline Non-Existent These Days?

[Momof4]

I'm sorry, but I also disagree with you daycarewhisperer. I grew up in the days when I came home from school, got supper on the table because my parents were farmers, so I think I can speak to the example you are using. We all worked together to keep home and family together, picking tomatoes and hoeing the soya beans. But we played outside with our friends all the time because it was before the age of technology and had lots of free time and family time too. All my clothes were made by my Mom and our food was healthy because we grew our own garden, canned, pickled, you name it.

Ok, then when I raised my children here in the city I was flabbergasted as technology took over in the 80's and 90's and I didn't have a clue how wild city kids can be either. I grew up a sheltered hick kid! So as my children learned new and interesting teenage issues I learned them too.

Now, my daughters are protecting their sons because they know how bad it can be growing up in the age of technology.

Mumstheword, I love that you said this:

I totally feel that there is a lack of discipline today. It's not just discipline though, it's a lack of involved parenting. Kids are not taught respect and manners and acceptable behaviour. Some, Parents have decided they want to be their kids friend. Some are just unaware I think. Some are too busy with work or too into themselves to take the time with their kids.

[daycarewhisperer]

I'm sorry, but I also disagree with you daycarewhisperer. I grew up in the days when I came home from school, got supper on the table because my parents were farmers, so I think I can speak to the example you are using. We all worked together to keep home and family together, picking tomatoes and hoeing the soya beans. But we played outside with our friends all the time because it was before the age of technology and had lots of free time and family time too. All my clothes were made by my Mom and our food was healthy because we grew our own garden, canned, pickled, you name it.

Can I ask what would have happened if you and your siblings said no to the work? What if you all refused to do it? Was it an option to "help" or not "help"? Did your parents tell you to do it and you could then decide for yourself if you would or wouldn't?

[Momof4]

Can I ask what would have happened if you and your siblings said no to the work? What if you all refused to do it? Was it an option to "help" or not "help"? Did your parents tell you to do it and you could then decide for yourself if you would or wouldn't?

I don't think any of us ever considered not helping or doing our chores. That happened with my children a lot though. I respected my parents completely and knew how hard they worked. My children were asking for supper before I even got in the door and took off my high heels & set down my briefcase. But when I was a child if you misbehaved at school you got the strap across your hand. My children were told at school that I wasn't supposed to discipline them. That is the difference. Also, it was the four of my little monkeys against me alone.