Okay so I have this new family with me since the beginning of the month. Great people great child. I think mom is a bit over protective of her son. She kept saying how worried she was of him starting daycare because he's sooooo sensitve and blah blah blah. He's 2 by the way. Well ... transition to daycare as been easy breezy. He never had a tantrum here so far and I have seen him BITE AND HIT mom. Anyway there were signs that to me at home he may be use to be a little over indulged or whatever the proper term is I think you understand what I am trying to say right ?

Anyhoo I've been very clear with this family that the pick up and drop off NEEDS to be respected. It's a mejor factor with me ... that and appropriate clothing. Anyhoo so far mom has picked up 30 minutes earlier 4 times (whitout notice) now which irritates me because the child already leaves so close to after snack time and I do have late sleepers and lots of diaper changes so I just HATE not beeing ready when a parent picks up. I have nothing to hide I"m just such a perfectionnist and am so organised. I also hate when I have to just give her her child and move on. It's just so impolite ...Anyhoo my problem not hers but I DID mention how much this was important to me. So at first I tough she was just maybe 'checking' on me or was honestly close by and decided to pick up. She is still on mat leave. But today it really bothered me because she picked up while I had 2 18 month olds on the potty, one still sleeping and one still eating...Yeah kinda hectic. I would not have put the 18 month olds on the poty if I new she was coming. ( They just like to sit there to try it out for fun but they do use it ) So anway her son had just gotten off the table to play and he cried he did not want to go home and crouched on the floor. So I picked him up and said that I was sending him home he was ok and did not need to cry. ( In a soft voice) and brought him to her. She was telling him was making her feel bad and all that and was trying to calmly talk it out but he hit her. She really seemed bothered by it however ( The fact that he did not want to leave not the fact he hit her ). It's not the first time he does not want to go home. I did not say anything to her at the time I really did not have time. But later when she left I noticed that I forgot to put his hoody, mits and hat in is bag so I will have to write to her. I want to take this opportunity to tell her to please respect the pick up times and I want to make sure that she does not feel too bad about her soon not wanting to leave. He comes only 3 days per week and until now he has been with her since birth and from what I understand ... has not had a lot of socialising with other kids. I really beleive mom was expecting him to have a difficult time with daycare.

I woudl usually not have ANY problem saying what I feel needs to be said. The reason it is so delicate is that I really fear her anxieties. She has mentionned to me some 'emotional problems" she has but I never got to the bottom of it as I needed to end the conversation to tend to my own kids and really don't want to know Anyway I do not want to offend her and still want to give her the benefit of the doubt because I have had no problems with them but I do want to stop it before it gets worst.

Any suggestions as how I should bring it up in my e-mail about the early pick ups and what I can say to reassure her about her son not wanting to go home ? Do you see any possible red flags here ?

Thanks for your time on my long post :0)