I just went through all of what your saying. I put up with all of it for over a year and finally wrote them an email explaining how things would go, NO EXCEPTIONS. That if they wanted to continue care here, it would be by my rules or please consider themselves terminated. They did a complete 360 and now they follow ALL my rules. I'm kicking myself in the butt for not writing the email sooner as I was resenting them more and more each day! I explained why I wanted/needed things done the way I said and how it makes things run much more smoother and now I am much happier and the days run smooth. You have to stand up for yourself. Trust me, the inch you give becomes a mile and if they are anything like the family I have they will take and take and take. Nip it now before it becomes overwhelming!