Wow! That's quite a lot of hoops you jumped through. You sound like such a kind and giving person and she clearly took advantage of you. Never offer out any money to a potential client. It's so sweet to try to help her out, but I'd be asking myself 'Why would a complete stranger be asking me to find an apartment and loan me money?". That alone sends my antennae waggling! There are lots of good clients out there. You'll learn to spot them with time.

So far as hubby pressuring you....well, he could certainly make himself busy helping you advertise if he's that bent over it. Have him help you make a website, send out flyers, etc. There's a lot to be said for effective advertising. This sight has been terrific, but you really need more than this. If you can make yourself a good, professional looking website, it really does help immensely. I had one done a few weeks ago. In just the past couple weeks I've had 8 interviews, 1 signing and 3 more well on their way. The proof is in the pudding, as my mother would say. And go out to chat up mothers in the places they hang out....play centres, parks, etc. It all helps.

Chin up....it'll get better. Being stung sucks, but is a great learning tool. Good luck!