Can I vent here?

[cfred]

Wow! That's quite a lot of hoops you jumped through. You sound like such a kind and giving person and she clearly took advantage of you. Never offer out any money to a potential client. It's so sweet to try to help her out, but I'd be asking myself 'Why would a complete stranger be asking me to find an apartment and loan me money?". That alone sends my antennae waggling! There are lots of good clients out there. You'll learn to spot them with time.

So far as hubby pressuring you....well, he could certainly make himself busy helping you advertise if he's that bent over it. Have him help you make a website, send out flyers, etc. There's a lot to be said for effective advertising. This sight has been terrific, but you really need more than this. If you can make yourself a good, professional looking website, it really does help immensely. I had one done a few weeks ago. In just the past couple weeks I've had 8 interviews, 1 signing and 3 more well on their way. The proof is in the pudding, as my mother would say. And go out to chat up mothers in the places they hang out....play centres, parks, etc. It all helps.

Chin up....it'll get better. Being stung sucks, but is a great learning tool. Good luck!

[kidlove]

Sounds like you dodged a bullett there! put up an add and move on!!!

[angelina]

You are so like me. If I know the person needed help, let it be hot water, or clothing - I always make sure I can help. Along the way, many people help me too, either i needed toys or pass along clothes for my kids.

But it is not without pain in my heart. Sometimes, there are frustrations.

The situation that you help her because she is a potential client is a good thing. The money part I would not - since I do not have any. BUT i think you jump too many hoops, don't we all? We will pick the stars for them if it makes their lives easier.

Yes, we have all these altruistic instincts, because we can relate. I struggle with it day by day. You know, late pick ups here and there. So far, I am blessed, the pay is stable - every two weeks, it is on time.

I have 2 empty spots currently, and I am living on very limited budget. I am caring for my own toddlers 3 and 2 years old, and 1 daycare kids who is now 3 years old. By next year, these 3 year olds will go to school, so I will have 1 kids left.

I got respond from kijiji ads, sometimes lots of them. Some are very flaky, change their minds halfway, some ask too much - very late pick up at 6:30 pm, and some wants part time for cheap. I can tell you i have been "burned" before and I am now starting to get smarter. The keyword "starting to". Will I ever be able to firm enough to say NO? time will tell.

you are not alone, me too!