cleanup in the play area takes place before washing for lunch, if the room is not picked up? 'lunch is not served'. after cleanup, all kids go to bathroom to wash hands, I try to encourage the older kids to help the younger (giving myself a little more prep time) if not old enough to help I usually try to have lunch ready and prepped on counter, so when the "i wants" start during lunch I can best accomidate all without feeling too overwhelmed. (hard to get through lunch most days without feeling a little overwhelmed) (I do always have the basics such as napkins and rags for spills on hand at the table, and a filled small pitcher for self help when the kids "want more!" water. I encourage as much independence as possible. (helps me and them) after the children have finished all their food, they know the drill, get up from the table take your garbage to the garbage and your plate to the sink, then off to the potty, wash and get out your blanet and pillow...story and nap. (while the older kids are going potty by themselves, I will wash up and diaper the younger ones and get them into bed before story) while nap is taking place, I do the adult work...clearing the rest of the table, sweep the floor, wash the dishes. Don't brush teeth here, have tried in the past and dont have alot of participation with all parents...gave up.