AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHH......need to vent

[BlueRose]

Sunnydays - right now I am just happy she is sitting quietly, by next week I plan on having her lie down and see how it goes. This is her third day here and she did not have any transition days, just three 10.5 hr days. So I am giving her some time to adjust.

I will NOT be paying for pull-ups. I have two kids of my own in diapers, if I wanted to pay for a third kids diapers/pull-ups I will have another kid of my own. The cost way to much, and the agency doesn't pay me enough to buy them.

[BlueRose]

Playfelt- the dcg speaks and understands English very well. She has been in a daycare centre in the past and the dad has no problem with English at all. I am unsure why they pulled her out. But I am taking it into account that she does know two languages and can get confused between them.

[Momof4]

So sorry Valerie, what a start for you!!! A 2 year old child needs a nap so that would be non-negotiable at my daycare every afternoon. You are absolutely right about demanding a week's supply of diapers and wipes before you let them in the door tomorrow morning. If anyone disrespected my contract and start and close times the way you are describing they would be gone. I have bills to pay but I won't be treated like dirt!

This is also the reason I don't ever want to work for an agency. I want to choose who comes to my daycare and I want families who understand that my contract is law and that they must value their daycare space or they will lose it. Be careful not to project desperation, because people can smell that and will walk all over you. Stand up for yourself and let the parents know what is not acceptable just like you teach the children that same thing.

[Nottellin']

Playfelt- the dcg speaks and understands English very well. She has been in a daycare centre in the past and the dad has no problem with English at all. I am unsure why they pulled her out. But I am taking it into account that she does know two languages and can get confused between them.

I know you said you need the money, but the bolder part is a red flag to me. What did they tell you in the interview?

I woukd start looking and let them go.
You already compromised your working hours (which you will start to resent), do you really want to compromise your quiet time AND help potty train a 3 year old?

[BlueRose]

Nottellin' - trust me i am looking for a replacement, so are both my advisers from both of the agencies I am with.
I am still new at this and learning what all the red flags are. The interview was hard because the father was at work and the mother was "speaking through a friend".
The first time I new there was a red flag was when the father called and asked if I could stay open later. I did tell him no, But my husband got mad, I needed clients. My husband Said to take them on until I could find someone else. So I went against my better judgement and told the father I would stay open the extra 30min. My husband is making dinner for us when he gets home as well as helping with our 2 kids, which helps me out.
I just wish I would get some phone calls/emails soon.

The girl was good at quiet time today. I think she just needs some time to get use to being here.

Pick Up - update- So the dad showed up and I told him that he could either bring 2 or 3 pull-ups each day or a bag full, which ever he wanted, but he HAD TO BRING SOME. He said okay.
So either he will show up tomorrow without them, and have to go get some or he will bring them for a few days then stop. I know he is not happy. I just hope he stays long enough for me to find a replacement.

Not looking forward to the drop off. I am going to check her bag before he leaves. there is a 24hr metro right across the street, so he can run over there if he "forgets".

Good news- my before and after school boy started to day. He is very quiet and gets alone with my 3 yr old boy great. I think he will do well here. now I just have to wait for my 18 month old to start.

Things might not have started off all that great, but they will get better. And I will learn from my mistakes, trust me I will make lots. L.O.L

[BlueRose]

So the dad showed up this morning. He said that there had been a pull up in the small front pocket of the bag. I am sure that I had looked there yesterday, but want ever. Its way to early to get into a fight about it. My youngest was up most of the night and I feel cold coming on.
So there are two pull ups in her bag this morning.

Still can't wait to replace her. As nice as she is, she just isn't a good fit. i have noticed that she can be aggressive towards both my boys. My oldest can stand his own ground but my 9 month old can't. She has pushed my 9 month old a few times. She is an only child and needs to get used to having other kids around so I am working with her.
I don't think my oldest likes her very much. this morning he got up, walked into the living room, saw the girl , turned, walked back into his room and closed the door.

[kidlove]

uh oh, not a good sign when you'r own child doesn't like another in your care. makes it very hard for you,and seems hard on your own child. some kids do take a while to figure out the rules and learn how you run things.

[BlueRose]

I am hoping that my son is just a little over whelmed by the daycare setting in his home. I told me a little while ago that he is not feeling well. I put him on my bed with a snack and the tv. He is now doing much better and wants to go to play group.
But I will keep and eye on him, just in case he is coming down with something. I know I sure feel like I am getting a cold.

[BlueRose]

Update- By yesterday afternoon my son was playing with the dcg. I was happy to see them playing together.
The dcg asked 3 times to use the bathroom and she left wearing the same dry pull-up that she came in. I was so happy. I told her father that I have started a sticker chart for her. Ever day that she tells me at least twice that she has to go and leaves in the same dry pull-up that she came in, she will get a sticker. Once the chart is full, she can start going without pull-ups. The father seemed happy with that. I just didn't tell the dad, that there or 20 squares on the chart that need to be filled (20 days), but he never asked. When she fills the chart and no longer needs pull-ups and ends up having an peeing on my floor again we will just start the chart again. But I am sure that will not be a problem.

Things are getting better. But I still plan on replacing her due to the hours. I should have put my foot down when my husband was talking me into taking her on. But I do need to respect my husbands wishes too.

[BrightEyes]

Valerie I am glad to hear that it's all coming together for you. Too bad about the hours, but you're right about respecting your husband's wishes too. It's not easy though!