Update: Quiet time to day is better. Both my boys are sleeping in their rooms. The dcg is sitting on her mat, every once and a while she will wimper a little to let me know she is still up. I gave her a few dolls to play with, I closed the blinds and turned off the lights. She did start to through a fit at first, but I used my mommy voice to tell her "You don't have to sleep, just sit quietly, play with the dolls or look at a book. She keeps closing her eyes and when she starts to fall over she sits back up and says she is not tired.

I am enjoying the piece and quiet.

My adviser is going to call the father about the pull ups. Can't wait to hear what he has to say to her about that.
She still is not telling me that she has to go to the bathroom. I am making sure that she goes. I don't want her sitting in a wet pull up because of her parents. I don't think its fare for her.

over all the day is getting better.