I wouldn't leave her in a wet pull-up all day either! It isn't her fault her parents are acting stupidly! And I wouldn't be buying pull-ups out of my own pocket. I think you have done the right thing by demanding the parents supply a package. And as for quiet time...it will get better with time if you stay strong. Sounds like she may need a nap still if she is fighting sleep...have you thought of asking her to lie quietly for the first hour and see if she falls asleep?