I was thinking exactly the same thing as MominAlberta. Can she or won't she is a big difference. I start telling the parents right away when babies start here to encourage them to learn new things and to be independent and not to cater to their every whim and need. It's hard for parents who really 'baby' their children to learn to do that but it's best for the child to learn gross and fine motor skills by playing and doing everyday things for themselves. Your case really scares me that there is a physical problem. But it's up to the parents to ask the doctor. You could put out some strong hints though.