How much crying do you tolerate?

[sunnydays]

Wow! i admire your determination! I will hang in there for a few weeks, but I know I could not handle months of crying...no way no how! The other kids are suffering too. I know it will very likely pass in another week, but if not, I will not go past 4 weeks without significant improvement. I just couldn't handle that...I can't do anything with the other kids with all the crying...I can't even hear them when they talk let alone do a craft or circle time. Fingers crossed the crying stops soon!

I had a child who took 2 months, one who took 4 months (but he was in pain because his parents wouldn't believe he was lactose intolerant) and one who took 7 months. They are all still here because the parents worked with me. I had one child who screamed for 1 month and was terminated because the Mom made me furious and wouldn't work with me. So I keep trying and trying if the parents are working with me, no matter how long it takes.

[Momof4]

I agree with you. It's really hard on us and on the other children when we have a screamer. I just really hate interviewing and transitioning so I'd rather keep going and get it over with, rather than start over from scratch. But sometimes you just know you have to cut the ties. I respect you for that completely. You have to know when you have reached your limit.

[apples and bananas]

I agree with you. It's really hard on us and on the other children when we have a screamer. I just really hate interviewing and transitioning so I'd rather keep going and get it over with, rather than start over from scratch. But sometimes you just know you have to cut the ties. I respect you for that completely. You have to know when you have reached your limit.

momof4 is right. Only you know what you can tolerate and only you know how stressful it is on the little one. Just make sure you're communicating honestly with the parent so if termination is in the future it's not a total shock. Sometimes it just does'nt work out.

[Big Hearts]

I have a little girl who use to do the same thing. This went on for a few weeks and it sucked. after a week i wanted to replace her but i needed the money. long story short she is still with us and a real joy now. it took a month for her to get in to it and now she is happy to see me and i never hear a peep out of her....Goof luck and remember IT'S FRIDAY!!!!

[busydaycarelady]

Oh my! I've had a serious crier once before. I got him when he was very, very young. He was only 5 months and I had him 3 full days/week. I tried for 3 months.......then I had to call it quits. He cried literally all day long. The only time he cried less was naptime(IF he fell asleep). Nothing physically wrong with him, he also did it at home and he was carried absolutely every second of the day at home, which, I simply could not do with 4 other kids running around. I saw his mom in the grocery store the other day, he is now 2, but she said he kept up crying like that until after he turned one. Mom and dad ended up working opposite schedules so they could stay at home with him and deal with his crying themselves. But, I digress, in hindsight, I'd have given it 4-6 weeks tops and moved on. It is sad to let a kid go sometimes, but, your sanity and that of the other kids is pretty important. If you can try for 2-4 weeks, I'd say that should give the kid enough time to get to know you and you to know him. Stay consistent with routines and how you deal with thiese crying episodes, ask parents how they deal with him at home, maybe he could bring a favorite toy to comfort him! Best of lluck to you!!!

[sunnydays]

Thanks for all the support It really helps to have it. The crier in question is not here today, so I am enjoying a very quiet Friday (in fact the other kids have commented on how quiet it is). I will rest up this weekend and brace myself for next week. It will be his first full week of full days next week, so I am hopeful that within 3-4 days he will have calmed down. I am being very open with the parents about the crying in case it does come to termination. I have others on my waitlist, so it isn't a problem financially, but I also feel obligated to give it a certain amount of time and see if he can settle in. I would feel really really bad for the parents if I had to let him go!

[Momof4]

I'm glad you are having a quieter Friday sunnydays. I was thinking that one thing I always do with new children is to ask that the parents send in the crib sheet and covering blanket and cuddle from home and I send it home daily in the backpack so it retains the smell of home. I really think that helps with naptimes. As for screaming the rest of the day, well if I can have my quiet break in the afternoon and all the other children get to sleep I can manage to recover and finish my day.

[Dreamalittledream]

Oh boy do I feel your pain. I have a 1 year old that has visited a few times with his Mom this week and is having his first day alone here today. So far he was okay for the first hour then screamed ever since. He has refused bottle, taken a little food between sobs and I've finally been able to get him to fall asleep. We'll see how he is when he wakes up but man that constant screaming is really unnerving & there's only so much you can pick them up. It's early on the game, I'm sure he'll be just find with patience and cuddles. It's so hard on them. This is his first time being left with anyone, so strange me, strange kids, lots of stimulation...poor little guy.

[sunnydays]

I know...it is really hard on them! And it depends on their personalities and experience how they take it. I started another 1 year old 2 weeks before this one and he has never cried at all except for a few seconds when his mom leaves. He is happy and easy going all day long...I totally hit the jackpot with that one! And I really want this new one to be okay as I feel bad for him being under so much stress. At least I know I am not alone!

Oh boy do I feel your pain. I have a 1 year old that has visited a few times with his Mom this week and is having his first day alone here today. So far he was okay for the first hour then screamed ever since. He has refused bottle, taken a little food between sobs and I've finally been able to get him to fall asleep. We'll see how he is when he wakes up but man that constant screaming is really unnerving & there's only so much you can pick them up. It's early on the game, I'm sure he'll be just find with patience and cuddles. It's so hard on them. This is his first time being left with anyone, so strange me, strange kids, lots of stimulation...poor little guy.