New DCG started and all she does is cry

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I don't have a trial period. They just start and that is it. I tend to take a firm stand on the crying and even the one year old I have now if I say Z... cut it out in a very firm voice with a glare he will look at me and stop,lol. When it gets nothing from me - very cold hearted here - no patience for something not of my own making - it does seem to pass. In three weeks both babies now go down for naps with less than 5 minutes of tears - I do not go back at all past the third or fourth day. Both came needing cuddles and bottles and rocked to sleep. Now they go for naps and get their bottles when they get up. They are so tired they come before 7 and are in bed before 8:30 so no need for more food by that point.

It is funny for some kids though that there is just something that either clicks or doesn't and they are fine in some situations and not others. Not sure what sets them off but it can be brutal for sure.

I do a lot of putting them in their beds if they are crying regardless of what time of day it is - baby time outs.

Is the child content at all in the highchair or exersaucer or anywhere at all. I do not carry a child around past day one if even that day. They are welcome to crawl after me even into the bathroom with me but they come under their own power not mine. It sounds really mean but for many kids they just have to realize that life is now different and they have to learn to cope. This is where parents play a role in how they react at home too and if parents are giving in then it will take a lot longer than a couple weeks for the child to realize that no matter how much they scream you are not going to.

If it is any consolation the screamers and intense ones once they do settle can be the best because they are so passionate about everything. Maybe that thought will help a little.....