Inappropriate????

[gramma]

What you are saying true so perhaps "white' was not the right way to put it but when you mention someone of "dark" skin even though they may have been born in Canada there are cultural differences in how children are raised. I looked after children whose heritage was Jamaican, although mom and dad were born in Canada. they had a very different way to discipline which includes spanking. I was told it was okay for me to spank their children if needed (although I never would) because in their culture it was acceptable and common practice. If the Op is only going to hire a white, english speaking canadian to help raise her children then why not just advertise that way rather than waste the time of dozens of people of different colours and backgrounds. Sorry but its just my opinion if this offends anyone.

There is a difference between "white" and all of the other cultural groups you mentioned. "White" is not a culture! White is a skin colour. If someone is asking for a Pakistani caregiver, it is because they want someone who speaks their language, cooks their kind of food, shares cultural and religious beliefs etc. By asking for a "white" nanny, the person is only assuring themselves of skin colour...not culture, not religion, not type of foods, etc. The English speaking, I can understand...no issue with that. But asking for a "white" person is really really discriminatory. A person with brown skin who was born here and speaks English could just as easily fit with the cultural values of the family.

[sunnydays]

Do you know how many white people spank their kids as well?! Tons! I think those are the types of issues that need to be discussed in an interview to see if the nanny is a good fit in terms of parenting style, values, etc. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with the colour of someone's skin nor the culture someone was raised in. My husband is African and was beaten as a child, as his family continues to do back home...but he has never laid a hand on our children and never would. He understands it is different here. On the flip side, I was spanked as a child (I am white, English speaking) and really wouldn't have a problem spanking my own children (have done it occasioanally over the years)...but I would NEVER spank someone else's child. Again, I stand by my statement that the Ad above is discriminatory and someone being "white" does absolutely nothing in the way of finding a good match of caregiver and family.

What you are saying true so perhaps "white' was not the right way to put it but when you mention someone of "dark" skin even though they may have been born in Canada there are cultural differences in how children are raised. I looked after children whose heritage was Jamaican, although mom and dad were born in Canada. they had a very different way to discipline which includes spanking. I was told it was okay for me to spank their children if needed (although I never would) because in their culture it was acceptable and common practice. If the Op is only going to hire a white, english speaking canadian to help raise her children then why not just advertise that way rather than waste the time of dozens of people of different colours and backgrounds. Sorry but its just my opinion if this offends anyone.