I am here today. Wondering if I am damaging my kids more than doing any good.

I have all dck that want to do the exact same things as my kids .. example my daughter loves when her baby brother wakes up from a nap. She opens the door, greets him, turns on his lights etc. The other dck are complaining that she does this every day and when do they get to have a turn. Same with space. My daughter sits at the breakfast bar over the table cause she has a hard time with people in her personal space (autism). They all fight every day about taking turns at the breakfast. Becomes a HUGE conflict, no matter how much I explain about personal space and her needs.