What do you think???

[treeholm]

I wouldn't judge someone else for their decisions, but I couldn't have done it. Of course, I also nursed my children for 2 years, so I wasn't able to get away for more than a few hours at a time for several years. I am also a different generation (mid-50s) and I would have felt too guilty to take "me" time at the expense of spending time with my children, and I think if I had asked my mother to babysit so I could get away overnight while I had a child under two, she would have been shocked that I would even consider it. I did get away for 5 days with hubby in 1988 for our tenth anniversary, but our first two children were 8 and 3 at that time, and it was combined with a business trip. That's the only time we ever left our children for more than 1 night, until the youngest was a teenager. There's a part of me that admires young moms who are comfortable taking time for themselves... many of my friends who are my age would never have felt that it was okay to put our own needs ahead of the need of our child to have mom there 24/7. I'm not saying we were right or wrong, or that mothers who take time for themselves are right or wrong, it's just a different attitude these days.