Well, little update on this, I had a talk with the mom a week ago about a week ago about the finger sucking. I told her that it had to stop because its first not sanitary (... she is always sick!!) and that my son and other kids started to suck on their fingers ( and we didnt have this problem before..) So we agreed that everytime she put's her finger in her mouth... she has to tell her : No S.. you are not a baby, dont put your fingers in your mouth... Since she understand very well that she is not suposed to do it... ( she hides now...) we are telling her 3 times then its a time out.

Now, I don't think that her mom is doing it at home... Usually by the end of the week... she only does it 2-3 times a day... but when monday comes back around we have to start all over again! it is so frustrating!

the mom explained to me that when she was younger, they had to tape her hands while she was eating because she would put her fingers in her mouth between every mouthful... So that's probably why she doesn't close her mouth when she eats, and it explains the drool!

She is gone on holidays until December 1st so i will do the developmental screening chart when she comes back...

Thank you ladies so much for your help! maybe I will stop having Gray hair about it eventually! AHAH!