What do I do?

[Inspired by Reggio]

Oh well than for sure the 'hammer' of expectations for behaviors in my home would be coming down on those siblings ... every morning upon arrival we would be having a little sit down discussion about how we talk to each other NICELY at my house, the acceptable indoor voice tone and level, the respect for furniture and equipment and so forth and how 'conflict' is resolved in the program and the consequences that will ensure for NOT behaving!

Might help with that age group to put up visual reminders .... so for example in our program conflict resolution has 6 steps and when I have newbie BIG KIDS I have an actual poster I put up in the playroom to help them learn it ...

1. We stop the behavior ~ adult takes anything that might be fighting over like a toy or what not (a no circle with arguing/fighting pics inside it crossed out)
2. We gather facts about and discuss each others points of view talk to bystanders about what they saw (talking bubbles)
3. We restate the problem as each person understand its (nodding heads in agreement)
4. We discuss potential solutions (a bubble with a 'list' inside it)
5. We choose a solution both sides agree up and a consequence if it happens again and implement it (a light bulb over kids playing happily)
6. Adult stays close by to follow up and support as necessary (pick of kids playing with an adult nearby)