Expiration date for parents?

[Inspired by Reggio]

Hugs ~ I think we see this in all kinds of relationships .... so the friend who after years of being married to someone for example all of a sudden the entire focus of their energy is all the little things they HATE about the spouse they are not considering leaving and you start thinking ~ hmmm why did you spend so long with them if it was so awful' but the reality is it was NOT that awful only our perception of it changed that stinking thinking or negative focus can sneak in and make something minor that would normally roll of our back under the radar suddenly starts to feel like the straw that broke the camels back so to speak.

So guess I am saying that it is a bit of both ... annoying behaviors YES but they sound like things that under normal frame of mind would roll off the back but are being made larger for you because over the course of 10 years together there is obviously things you will miss and well the fear of 'change' that is likely in the subconscious of breaking in a new family and so forth so it is easier to curb that coming 'loss/fear' by focusing on all the things you will NOT be missing about the client who is leaving to make yourself more willing to accept the change and risk of beginning a new relationship.

I always try to remind myself of this when relationships are ending to find that balance of protecting myself while still trying to celebrate all the 'good times' of the relationship as well ... with some clients it is easier than others for sure!