Expiration date for parents?

[Serendipity]

I always try to remind myself of this when relationships are ending to find that balance of protecting myself while still trying to celebrate all the 'good times' of the relationship as well ... with some clients it is easier than others for sure!

This makes ALOT of sense. Thank you. I think what I am feeling matches alot of what you said. Thanks for making me feel not so crazy... LOL!

I know this question seems totally rude...but ehy do you care about the brand of tissues?? Wouldn't bother me esp. if I asked parents to bring them.

But she does seem rude, and "snooty" Any way that you can interview & replace this person?

LOL! That is exactly what I am saying....is it me or is it her? Am I making a big deal out of the "little things" she does that go against the policies or is she trying to be the thorn in my side....kwim? Normally I don't care what tissues people bring but honestly, you have seen the kind that are awful and paper thin....might as well use newspaper kind? THAT is the kind she brings. I wondered if she was stopping at the gas station and stealing them out of the rest room because they are really really crappy tissues and I do NOT like wiping green runny noses let alone getting it all over because the tissue are sucky.

fwiw~ It is pretty normal for DCF's to bring supplies like that on a regular basis for daycares in my area. Plus like I said, the Target or Walmart generic ones seem to be fine so it isn't like I am asking the families to spend a ton on them but I am using them on their kids (and I don't have a huge group) so I feel badly for the red little noses when I come along with a tissue that feels like sandpaper.

...and yes, her tone and her attitude always come across as very snooty and condescending but I'd say 75% of the time I deal with dad so I am good. I don't want to interview and replace because it would be a rare thing to replace this family as their child is actually school age but didn't go to school this year so he is kind of a bonus kid as he isn't counted in my ratios so the money I earn from them is above and beyond my normal daycare kids.

Anyway, what I see in your post Serendipity is that the little things are bugging you a LOT because of the attitude and condescending way this parent treats you. I don't blame you for being done with that kind of person and congrats on lasting so many years.

The end is in sight though, just less than a year to go. Can you survive? Because if not then I agree with Dodge and you should go ahead and replace them for your own sanity and peace of mind. What you've described is blatant disrespect by that parent toward you. I understand when you get to the end of your rope and you can't stand it any more. But that's when it's time to cut the ties and be happy again. Good luck with whatever you decide. If the child isn't too bad can you let the mother's bad behaviour roll off your back with an eye roll and a pffffft, there she goes again?

Thank you and I am sorry I am making you nervous...LOL! I promise it isn't always this way. I have had lots of family last a long time and I don't think any of them got to me like this one is. I think it has a lot to do with what Inspired by Reggio said and that I might be somewhat protecting myself because the end is near and the little things are now exaggerated to the point that it is annoying but really they have always been there.

I think that it has finally just hit me that I won't have to deal with this DCM's snobbiness soon and although I just let it slide in the past because I viewed it as HER problem not mine it still was no big thing until now Kind of like when a certain kid is absent and you suddenly realize that your day runs smoother without them although you didn't really think they were a bad kid in the first place. Make sense?

Anyways, thanks for the replies ladies, you have made me feel better for sure!!