thanks ladies...i have been trying to fill this last spot for months now without many inquiries which is why i am leaning toward doing it. i will not be making any decisions until after i meet with family next week...i am a little concerned with that long of a time period tho...i will be meeting the child at 7 months old...will be quite a different child when he starts coming at 12 months...i dont want to get screwed over either...hold the spot and then be back at square one...decisions, decisions...lol