Am I being an ass?

[jazmic]

I think it's great that you were able to tell them how you feel. That's the first step toward healing. I agree that if the Christmas party is after hours, feel free not to invite them. In time, you may be able to forgive them, but it's understandable that right now, all the emotions are too raw.

[bright sparks]

In time, you may be able to forgive them, but it's understandable that right now, all the emotions are too raw.

I think this is key. I am way to hurt right now. It is after hours and I invest a lot of time, energy and money into throwing a great Xmas Party. These are all things they have clearly not appreciated enough to warrant me including them.