Am I being an ass?

[gramma]

the father denied ever having given you the impression that you were a friend and extension of their family so why would you feel bad for not inviting them to a holiday party for friends and family? After 2 1/2 years, they owed you the opportunity to meet their needs financially before moving elsewhere. It doesnt mean that you could or would have made the financial changes that they wanted but it they should have told you that moving the kids was apossiblity if you couldnt come to a new agreement. Unfortunately when it comes down to it, we are just the babysitter. they love us when we do great things and teach their children to be independant, how to write their names, not to mention all the love and hugs we give their children but once they no longer need us, all those things are forgotten. Yes, you need to look after yourself in future. That doesnt mean that you dont do extras for people in future but when you do, make sure you are doing it because you "want" to out of the goodness of your heart because down the road it will be forgotten and not truly appreciated. Best of luck finding a new and wonderful family.