Just to clear things up, I never insinuated that if you don't love your dck's that you don't do a good job. I didn't say that and I am in no way implying that, so apologies if you took that the wrong way, it was not intended and was not what I wrote. But as Reggio said, the word LOVE means different things to different people. If you care for people IMO, you are showing a degree of love. Different words may be used to describe this by different people.

Also, I am not a moron. I did not furthur hurt myself by going and pouring my heart out to people who quite clearly don't care. I took what you said Judy and was not pissed off, but obviously I may see things from a slightly different perspective but I agree with you and in my last post I acknowledged all my short comings and areas needing work. I still believe that it matters how I feel, if only to me and no-one else. Its just what I do with those feelings to enpower me not to fall for this crap again. But thats how I work clearly as a giver and a pleaser, emotionally involved. I hope that I can learn to be more like you seasoned providers in keeping my emotions seperate from business.