Am I being an ass?

[sunnydays]

I'm not sure why many people seem to think love is a resource that is in short supply. Why do you think that if your child love's someone else, it means he loves you less? When my son said he loved his daycare provider, it made me feel happy...because I knew that meant he had a good daycare provider and that they had formed a meaningful bond...which is exactly what I wanted for him. I did not feel in any way that he loved ME less because of his feelings for her. And I will always know that it is a different kind of love...the love a child has for their mother and father is stronger and deeper. While I don't say I love my daycare kids, I do care for them and I do get attached to them although I know they will leave one day. I think that is a form of love as Bright Sparks mentioned...it just depends on your interpretation of the word love. Kids don't have as many words to describe their feelings, so they use love...pure and simple.

I am late to the party, sorry... (thanks for the saying regio)

I posted this in another thread and I think it applies here...Keep in mind I ma not trampelling your feelings this is just my thought.

I LOVE MY JOB, and would not go back to the "working world" unless I was ready, willing and able to do so. I coudn't stand Cooperate Canada for many many reasons, but in the end we care, nuture and assist these children through the early years. WE DO NOT LOVE THEM. The mom and dad's do.

In fact,in my ECE and Educational Assistant training the importance of "staying professional" and not forming attachment was stressed in many different areas of my classroom and practical training. I will tell the kids however that they are special friends to me and I care for them deeply. However I never say I love them..

Not only does it set us up for disaster, but it hurts parents deeply, I know. It used to cut me to the core when my son would say he loved "Jane" at daycare. I cried about it.. And so , ever since then I try to remember that moment when my heart "bleeds."

And let's face it as much as we love our jobs and enjoy these kids, they are our income and we all deserve professional treatment.