I do not have any advice cause I have never had to deal with this first hand ... however I do empathize with the concept of guilt!

IME there is often so much judgement made for mothers who choose to send their children to daycare when they are 'home' .... I have a peer who sends her son 3 days a week because he needs the socializaton and speech and language practice that being home with one sibling does not provide but people LOOK AT her when she states that her son is in daycare while she is home with the other sibling like 'what do not you like your son' you can see it in their eyes

IMO everyone needs to be able to know and reflect on their own limits and skills and abilities with children ~ they do not all fit in the same box and well some personalities are just EXHAUSTING to raise 24/7 .... so when a mama comes to me and says yet I am at home and not working but I want to put my kid in a program for socialization and to get a break I try not to judge because I trust that if she is feeling that way than chances are the child IS indeed better coming into a program to give the mama that break ... I would rather the kid be in my program and mama having some me time than to read about that mama in the paper having SNAPPED like the stories you read about in the paper and driven her children into the lake or something cause she just felt at the end of her rope.

Living our life is all about finding our own balance and constantly reflecting truly on what we feel is best for ourselves and our children and that what we are doing is working ... if you feel this will help give it a try if it helps AWESOME worse case it does not make a difference at all so you pull her out again and look for some other option!