Bad start to the day :(

[mommyof2princesses]

Hi,
So this morning my dcm and her 13 month old come in and dcm is standing in my kitchen talking to me. My 3 year old daughter gets up off the couch to come over to me to let me know she had to go pee, in the meantime the dcg who isn't the steadiest walker walks right into my daughter and falls over but gets right back up as if nothing happened. This has happened a few times before but today when it happened to mom says to me that my daughter needs to say sorry and to watch where she is walking and that she hopes its not happening all the time that basically my daughter does it on purpose. SO NOT TRUE AT ALL She just wouldn't let up even when i said it was just an accident so I finally said maybe my daughter just doesn't see the dcg cause she isn't always wearing her glasses. Then she finally let up after I said that as she saw I was not happy and she made light of the situation then but I was so shocked over how she reacted I didn't know what to say. She then went on to ask of my daughter and the dcg play welll together. I said they don't really play together yet as the dcg is only 13 months and my daughter is 3 so they kind of play side by side. Then she proceeds to tell me that my daughter is introverted and maybe doesn't know how to play with kids and maybe she would liek it if she could teach the dcg how to play with toys and maybe that would make her happier. That totally offended me and I just didn't know how to respond to it so I kind of just shrugged it off and she went off to work all happy and like everything was ok after telling me that I had asked for open communication so she felt she needed to say all that. Yes I ask for open communication about your child, not mine This child only comes one day a week, two days a week starting in January. The dcm also printed off her own daily reports for me to fill out because she didn't like mine I guess

Any advice??

[Crayola kiddies]

Ya ....NEXT .....

[mommyof2princesses]

Thanks Crayola, your response made me smile I needed that!

[mimi]

This woman does not respect you! She is insulting your intelligence, parenting skills and is telling you how to do your job. Because you kept silent, she will continue this type of "open communication" unless you set her straight regarding boundries. IMO I would just replace her.

[JennJubie]

I agree with mimi. Replace her. People like this are on some kind of power trip. Even if you speak up, there is still a good possibility that she won't get the point.

[mommyof2princesses]

How would you go about writing a termination letter when its because of the parents and not the child??

[Crayola kiddies]

Ok haha ..... I'll be a little less blunt .... There is no reason for this parent to be in your kitchen in the first place ....parent should walk in and take the outdoor wear off the child give them a hug and a kiss and leave ....this is not a social visit .... I have a gate at the entrance to my daycare and parents stay on their side. She has seriously over stepped her boundaries and I would rectify it today and if putting a gate up is not an option then i would be at the door when she arrives from now on blocking the way so she can't get past you. She will get the hint soon cause otherwise this will get worse and soon you will have to deal with it twice a week instead of just once a week and you will begin to dread the days she is in attendance.

[Crayola kiddies]

I regret to inform you that due to a general air of disrespect towards myself and my business I will no longer be able to provide care for xxxxxx. The last date of available care will be xxxxx.

Regards
The Queen

Make sure you give the proper amount notice as stated in your policy book and after you receive your fees for that period(assuming you receive fees in advance of care). Always speak to the parent and explain that you are terminating and why and then give them a letter saying "this is the writen notice for your records"

[Sandbox Sally]

Wow. This woman is straight up rude. How dare she tell you how to parent your child in your home, let alone how to run your daycare. I would have been furious and would have asked her to leave.

[Wonderwiper]

I'm with Alpha....get out of my house! I have it in my contract that any disrespect of me, my children, my home etc. by a parent or child is grounds for immediate termination! Sorry you were treated like that!! Where do these wing nuts come from?!?!?!