2 year old is a small child to me, dif in opinion i guess they are learning and don't know any better than to have an accident every once in a while while in the training process...I just consider it my job to clean up after what happens while I'm the adult in care, to each his own on this topic, but the ONLY time I give the clothes back to the parent for them to handle is under "poor behavior" circumstances or the possibility of illness. That's just the way I work. But others are not so helpful or willing to go that far and is completely understood. Like I said earlier, i just do what I would hope somepne would be willing to do for me if the tables were turned.