Give me strength

[kidlove]

Been my experience that no matter what you try you can't really change this type behavior IF it's not being worked with at home, and it seems no matter how how try you probly won't be able to get through to this Mom, sounds like she has her parenting style pretty set. The ONLY thing you can do is work with the children while in your care and teach them while in your home they do and act by your rules. I have had this many times and you will drive yourself bonkers if you let it really get to you. Just work with them and make sure they know the difference of you and Mom. But how the Mother allows them to behave will always outweigh your influence. The best advice I can give is to be very firm on what is expected when with you, and you can attempt to portray that to mom, whenever possible. In a dream world, she will notice they listen to you and behave well when you are around, then ask you what it is that you do....then the ball is in your court. In 10 years, this happened a couple times for me, very rewarding to have a parent ask, listen and follow through. Dont hold your hand on your hiney though, you can't change the way they parent, can only change the way the child behaves when with you! good luck!