I probably would just let it go. Keep telling yourself it is because you listed a Sept opening and then it doesn't have to eat at you. On the other hand if you really wanted to find out you could do it in a round about way. Just say you have a curious question to ask her. Mention this forum and then something about how we have been chatting about what parents look for in a daycare and what makes them choose one situation over another. Since she just went through the choosing part does she have any words of wisdom she could share.