Over reacting?

[playfelt]

She may have been planning this even before she actually started her child into care or pretty soon after got the idea. It could also be something more recent and especially if she had any concerns about her current job in terms of it's longevity or conflicts with co-workers.

If you know each other on the mommy forum as in she knows your screen name and vice versa then she is in effect telling you in a passive way. I might be inclined especially if I doesn't know me on the forum to respond to her announcement and ask her some general questions like oh that is interesting what made you decide to do that, how did you go about getting ready, do you have any clients yet etc.

It may be that she has been advertising and now has a client ready to start the end of the month.

For sure I would stop giving any more information or supplies to her till I was able to confront her. The next time she asks about an aspect of the daycare right out ask why do you need to know that. Are you planning to open your own daycare? It is harder for a person to outright lie to a direct question then it is to just avoid telling the truth.

If she does admit remind her what your termination policy is and why it is in place and this would be a good time to show her that the daycare side of things is not all positives and one of the biggest things is that you can't count on a paycheck like she can at her job.