Suggestions on how to deal with this situation (when you don't happen to see who actually did have it first/who took it). Lately, I have been just totally removing the 'it' with a quick "at daycare we are nice friends and do not fight over toys". But open to new suggestions. You know, I knew it as a mom...but boy do you ever get it as well as a provider...inner voice (the guilt!) <oh great, I chose to just take the toy away, now they will never know about conflict resolution, or share concept, or impulse control...>. Meanwhile 'Johnny and Jane' have just shrugged it off and are on to new activities without a care in the word...and you are kicking yourself?!