I think as women we often get this ideal of the perfect romantic man from the movies and than get heartbroken when we get the reality of Al Bundy or Fred Flintstones or Archie Bunker or whatever asshat normal man was big when you were growing up

I do not want to be held to the ideal WOMEN that the media portrays either with the perfectly quaffed hair and face waking up, the tight little ass and perky little boobs well into their 60's cause they never eat and are more plastic than person and so forth I learned a long time ago to stop holding men up to that Pretty Women Hollywood standard of Romance where the sullen grumpy dude is suddenly going to realize he cannot live without his women and chase her down the street screaming from a limo with flowers in one hand and a total change of character in another ... that just is not real life!

IMO while they are 'nice' for sure there are lots of less 'materialistic' ways to show love than flowers, jewelery, dinner out and so forth ... to me caring enough to make sure I am warm when sleeping, that I am safe while driving, being willing to hold my hair while I vomit and rub my back until I feel better, knowing that he would jump in front of me if danger arose, that he lets me know if he is going to be late or his plans change so I do not worry ... to me THAT is REAL and sustainable unconditional everyday ways to show your love for a partner!