My husband takes care of certain tasks and I have my own tasks. Sometimes if he sees I'm overwhelmed (read bitchy) he will pick up my slack and do some of my chores to help out (and keep the peace) He does his best to try to see what needs to be done, but, well, he is a guy. Today he called to say when he gets home he will make dinner. Great, except we were going to have leftovers (yummy butter chicken). I didn't mention this and just told him that would be a big help. He is trying and means well.

I do think that the small gestures we do for each other do mean alot. I do appreciate when he gets up early to surprise me on a Saturday morning to get me a coffee and western omlete on a bagel. (of course he's so noisy getting up it really is no surprise LOL) and I will sometimes come home with his favorite chocolate bar just because.

As for gifts, sigh.....We agreed to spend 100.00 on each other for Christmas. Of course he wanted a list and I wanted him to do the work and THINK about what I might like. I finally had to provide him with some suggestions and now I think I might need a list from him 'cause I am lost in Canadian Tire.

My point is we all do what works for our own relationships. Big gifts, no gifts, kind gestures the main think is to treat each other like we do love and like each other even though on some days that can prove difficult.