Gifts from spouse

[ladyjbug]

So it is important to know your love 'currency' so to speak ... for my friends husband it was FOOD he felt loved when she cooked home made meals. I know for ME it is physical contact and feeling 'safe' ... my spouse spent 25 years in the Military he is so NOT a touchy feeling type however for ME something as simple as having my hand held or snuggling on the couch or when we are out for a walk and I might not notice a car coming and he will 'move his arm' to prevent me from walking out into its path ... those moments make all the difference between feeling 'connected and loved' and when that is absent from our relationship for any reason than EVERYTHING starts to bug me things that normally would roll off my back so to speak!

The love currency is key! My husband and I were (and are still) figuring this out. He is an amazing thoughtful man, however everything that he did while neglecting the one thing I DID want, ticked me off! Now I did appreciate everything he did but he seemed to have a list that he followed as to what was romantic in his book and that was that. It took me actually having to sit him down and tell him that we had different lists. Once we had both laid everything out on the table without having a fight about it, it became a lot easier to appreciate each other and compromise on our lists. It also helped me to figure out a few more things that he would appreciate me doing. Once I started doing those things, he was a lot more inspired to be romantic!

For material gifts, he LOVES electronics but I usually have to buy something the second he mentions it otherwise he will buy it for himself. It just will not occur to him that someone will buy it, and he'll go and get it for himself on Christmas Eve if he has the money and its there. Drives me nuts, but it's always fun trying to beat him to the punch. He also usually buys me an electronic device that scares me to death since I prefer the stone age and it always turns out to be the exact perfect thing I need.