This is indeed awful, and I'm very sorry you had a bad day. I have to say, though, that I'm stuck on the part where you say this happened while you were napping! I can't imagine allowing myself to doze off while running a daycare; it sends shivers up my spine imagining the mischief a 3.5 year old could get into if left unattended. I barely have time to go to the bathroom. Maybe I'm a paranoid newbie, but I don't let the children out of my sight for longer than the time it takes to pee, and for nap time, they are either babies in pack n plays or they are older ones (I have two 3.5 year olds) who nap where I can see them. If my child did something like that at daycare, I would ask the provider where she was when this was happening, and if she told me she was having a nap, I would be shocked. I don't mean to offend you, I'm just surprised that someone would think of taking a nap while at work.