First time moms and her child's food...

[Mamma_Mia]

causing issues at the lunch table with the other kids wanting what that one child has.... .

This is prob what the provider is dealing with daily with HER kid flipping out??
They need to talk it out and come to an agreement. the provider might say "Jimmy" has a tantrun at lunch each day to eat what the others want ....kwim?

Do I think she is over reacting 100% yes. It's not THAT big of a deal...chill pill lady.