Hmmm...well I agree that she is over reacting, however, if the provider agreed to feed the child the food the mother provided (for whatever reason), and didn't feed it to her, then I would think the mother had the right to be a bit upset, but livid??

Honestly, as a provider I would never let a parent provide food (with the exception of allergies), as it does cause problems amongst the children. It is easier to have everyone eat the same thing. Possibly the child wanted what everyone else was eating and wouldn't eat the mom provided food. I think the mom and provider need to have a talk about the food issue and come to an understanding once again.