Well, if the provider had agreed to give the child the food the mom supplied and not her own food...then I think the mom has a right to be upset as this is a breech of trust. As a provider, she should not have agreed to it if she wasn't okay with it. One person's idea of healthy food is different from another's...when I was looking for daycare for my kids, every single provider I interviewed said she provided healthy food...but in my view, none of them provided the kind of healthy food I wanted for my kids. But the point is, I would have been upset too if my daycare provider did this without talking to me about it first. That is the key...the parent has a right to know what the child will eat or it breaks down the trust.