Potty training advice

[daycarewhisperer]

If the parent insists that the child go in undies have them sign an agreement that they will pay for full carpet and furniture cleaning done by a professional company. Get a quote for an emergency clean from a company you believe can come out quickly and have the parents sign an agreement to pay and put a deposit of one cleaning down.

Once you attach money to the accidents they are usually willing to keep the cheapo diapers on the kid. Diapers are WAY cheaper than carpet cleaning unless you are not the one paying for the carpet cleaning. If someone else pays for it it is cheaper for the parent to do undies. Make wearing undies expensive and they will be more than happy to do diapers.

[monkeymama]

If she is doing well during the day and only having accidents at naptime, what is the harm in pull up at nap time only? My daughter is an extremely sound sleeper. She was potty trained by 2 but did have accidents occasionally during naptime because of this. I just used a pull up and a few months later she was fine.

[playfelt]

Another thing to look at is to check on her frequently in the last half hour of naptime. There is a chance given her age that she is not sleeping the entire time. It doesn't matter whether I sleep 3 hours, 5 hours or 8 hours I need to pee as soon as I wake up. If she is awake and just laying there she may be doing her best but can't hold it till the entire rest time is over. In which case a pullup will prevent the mess but you might also need to address whether a shorter time is necessary. Not all kids sleep two hours as in let her get up after the 1 1/2 hours and read a book or something after going potty.

[kidlove]

what are you doing before nap? if it's lunch, how much does she drink? and do you have her go potty before bed? I would also require a pullup for nap, if she keeps it fry thru nap then she earns a sticker. IMO 2.5 is a typical age for starting or even nearing the end of training especially for a girl, BUT even when a child is trained or near the end of training it is still up to the adults to make sure they go every so often, the child does not want to stop play to go potty and are always willing to push the peepees and poops to the limit, having lots of accidents. Until I am sure a child is completely trained I will use diaper or pull up for nap time only, you can't blaim a child for going potty when they are asleep. good luck!

[kidlove]

Playflet is right, a lot of times the child stays dry through the entire nap and will go potty after they awake, and for some kids it takes a little bit to fully awaken therefor peeing their pants could really be an accident, not fully awake a child doesn't have solid reasoning.

[kidlove]

If the parents insist on only undies even during nap time, you have two choices...let them go because who wants pee all over the floor after nap due to the fact that the parents are nieve and think their child is done training even though she clearly has a little longer. or...you could put a pull up on the child and not tell the parents. I purchased a bag uf pull ups over a year ago for nap time only kids and still have over half the bag left. If she blows through an entire bag in not a long period of time either she is not ready for undies or you are doing something wrong, most kids in training at the end stage, (if you have them go potty right before sleep and pay attention to when they get up and have them go right away after waking) should only have an accident every couple weeks at the most.

[mlle.coccinelle]

Well that didn't go too well. I told the mom that Starting tomorrow, she needed to bring pullups for naps because she had accidents on friday, monday and today as well. I said that she will need to be accident free for 2 weeks before the pull ups comes out and if she has an other accident again, pull ups for naps again....

She was SO upset about this. I told her that it was going to be in the contract starting january 1st and that if she wants her daughter to come to dayhome she need to provide pull ups or some kind to plastic undies because it was not acceptable... and she simply said no.

My problem is that this is my only full time girl, I really can't afford to lose her but i am sick and tired to have to bend over if you know what i mean...

[Inspired by Reggio]

Wow she refused to provide pull up for nap - if you are not willing to terminate over that not sure what to suggest - I would not tolerate peeing on things daily it is not sanitary in a group enviroment!!!

[Bugaboo]

I think you are going to have end this child care arrangement unfortunately. Unless you can have an honest talk with the parent and get on the same page.

I am more than willing and happy to help parents potty train their children when they are in my care but only if the parents are willing to work as a 3-way team (myself, child, parents). I am absolutely willing to assist training children in the washroom with all the steps and skills (helping with clothes, wiping, washing hands, etc.) and reminding or asking children if they need "to go", but I also work with my parents so that they understand that their child is not fully trained until they can do those skills on their own. The ultimate goal in potty training is not just getting the child to understand when they need to go but to help them be able to function in the washroom independently.

I also have a pull-ups rule for potty-training children and I disagree with anyone who says pull-ups delay potty training. They do not. When children are ready to be trained the process is quick and easy and usually relatively stress free. This situation doesn't sound like it is any of that which to me means this child is not ready, and that's ok. Maybe in two weeks or a month she will be ready, there's no race. If this parent can't be understanding of the sanitation concerns, I find that extremely disrespectful to you and to your other day care kids (whose parents would most certainly not appreciate their child being exposed or even contaminated with urine or feces). You have to look out for the safety and care (which includes sanitation) of all your children.

[Momof4]

Perfectly said Bugaboo and I heartily agree with all of this! Mlle.c you stand strong but you can be nice about it, but point out to the parent that they only have one child at home (I assume) and you have a houseful of children. It is unfair to all of the children that you have to take time from your fun and busy day to clean up messes.