Potty training advice

[Bugaboo]

I think you are going to have end this child care arrangement unfortunately. Unless you can have an honest talk with the parent and get on the same page.

I am more than willing and happy to help parents potty train their children when they are in my care but only if the parents are willing to work as a 3-way team (myself, child, parents). I am absolutely willing to assist training children in the washroom with all the steps and skills (helping with clothes, wiping, washing hands, etc.) and reminding or asking children if they need "to go", but I also work with my parents so that they understand that their child is not fully trained until they can do those skills on their own. The ultimate goal in potty training is not just getting the child to understand when they need to go but to help them be able to function in the washroom independently.

I also have a pull-ups rule for potty-training children and I disagree with anyone who says pull-ups delay potty training. They do not. When children are ready to be trained the process is quick and easy and usually relatively stress free. This situation doesn't sound like it is any of that which to me means this child is not ready, and that's ok. Maybe in two weeks or a month she will be ready, there's no race. If this parent can't be understanding of the sanitation concerns, I find that extremely disrespectful to you and to your other day care kids (whose parents would most certainly not appreciate their child being exposed or even contaminated with urine or feces). You have to look out for the safety and care (which includes sanitation) of all your children.