So the little girl is in my care today, her grandma dropped her off so i couldnt talk to the mother. Out of curiosity at snack time i DIDNT give her the jarred food, i offered her a nutrigrain bar, cheese, and cherios just to see if it was her gag reflex or just laziness. The little girl ate it ALL!!!! She is a very quiet and easy little girl so i didnt think it was because she was stubborn either. I have her again next week before the Christmas holidays so i will talk to the mother and try to explain to her that this poor little girl needs more nourishment, and for today i will offer her a healthy and nutritious lunch! Thanks for all the support and advice