well, list down what you can take. we all have make or break decisions to do.
then ask for 2 sets of clothing.
i used to have one kid like this, maybe not as severe, but i put one set of clothing in the laundry with my wash clothes, so i have clean one for the kid when he comes.
good luck to you..i some there are some parents who need caregiver training to care for their child.
angie