It's funny because with the little one I have, I wouldn't even dream of giving him a choice or really asking him much of anything as he just looks at me blankly...it's like talking to a 12 month old...you talk, but you don't expect any particular kind of response. He is really sweet and everybody loves him because he is so gentle and kind, but really he just does his own thing in his own way and in my mind I put him in with the two 13 month olds I have in care. It avoids frustration at him not being able to do things. Maybe it's wrong to think like this, but I can only push him so much.