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    Im very bother by this would you?

    This afternoon one of my school age kids grandma picks up early due to the snow day. She looks at my and says your in your house coat with a dirty look. The only reason i had my house coat on is because one of the little ones is sleeping in my room where i cant get to a sweater. I told i was cold and i cant go up stairs. I am very bothered by this. I have been walking around in circles all morning and after lunch clean up. I sit down for her to come in to say something. Would you be bothered about it?

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    It would have bother me too.
    But what I would love to know is how wearing a house coat going to effect how you care for the children. Its not. But "first" impressions and all. As long as we are not wearing something too revealing what does it matter.

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    The grandma interpretted it as laying around doing nothing - having a lazy day so to speak. As in didn't even bother to get fully dressed this morning. My first question is why your housecoat would be downstairs rather than up in your room and that there was nothing else you could have put on instead such as a spring jacket that would have been more sweater like or that you would have a sweater available downstairs somewhere. I get the curled up on the couch during naptime and being cozy. I have an old sloppy, baggy, stained sweatshirt I keep near my computer for evenings but when wearing would have taken it off quickly before answering the door.

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    Quote Originally Posted by playfelt View Post
    The grandma interpretted it as laying around doing nothing - having a lazy day so to speak. As in didn't even bother to get fully dressed this morning. My first question is why your housecoat would be downstairs rather than up in your room and that there was nothing else you could have put on instead such as a spring jacket that would have been more sweater like or that you would have a sweater available downstairs somewhere. I get the curled up on the couch during naptime and being cozy. I have an old sloppy, baggy, stained sweatshirt I keep near my computer for evenings but when wearing would have taken it off quickly before answering the door.
    I had to get up early this morning at 4:45 to get my husband up for work they called him in early this morning so i got up put my housecoat on because todays laundry day( i bring all my laundry to the basement the night before). And i had put my housecoat on my landing to upstairs so thats what i had lying around. Me too i normally have some type of sweater lying around but had taken them downstairs. I wasnt even expecting her either she just pooped in to get her because she knew she was with me because of the school buses being cancelled

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    Sounds like an over protective gramma. It would bother me too, but thankfully (or hopefully) you don't have to deal with Gramma that often. Maybe make a joke about it to mom and see what her response it. "gramma must have thought I was laying around all day.... ha ha ha"

    At the end of the day... you know what you've been doing all day. You know how hard you work and if you want to walk around in a moo moo then that's your right!

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    Grand parents dont stress me too too much... what do they know. I only have one word for that women : WHATEVER. Don't make it a big deal.. I guess unless the parents give you problems, but even then, they dont decide what you wear, we are not going to dress up in office clothes and high heels !

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    Of course, it has no bearing on how well you take care of the kids HOWEVER I, too, would have taken it off before answering the door. We are always yearning to be treated like professionals, but a professional wouldn't answer the door in a housecoat, sorry. That's just me though!

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    Yup I agree with the other ladies ~ yes it was rude of her to judge you however if we want to be seen as professional how we dress is part of that as 'dress code' is part of what people naturally use to judge professionalism ... I would not answer my door in my housecoat unless it was PAJAMA DAY and everyone was in their PJ's ... I am the opposite of most people and am always HOT so I work all day long in a sleeveless tank top and put on a 'sweater' to answer the door this time of year because the blast of air is cold for sure and I do not want parents looking at me like I have three heads standing there in just a tank top
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    Sweetness, I'm sorry this woman made you feel so bad. However, I have to agree that I always want my hair brushed and my makeup on and I wear nice, comfortable clothing at all times but I want to look professional. You learned a lesson so just move on with the knowledge that others may be shallow but we want to be known as business women so we have to project that image all the time.
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    I honestly would have been bothered by it, but just let it roll off your back as easy as it bothered you. I have had parents make comments like "I wish I had your job, sitting on your comfy couch" (while I was sitting with all the kids reading them a story. ...part of me is bothered because I feel like they think I do that all day or something, but them you do have to remind yourself that it really is pretty awsome that although we know the truth, that we work really hard to keep up a house and keep all these kids happy and cared for, taught and fed all day long but the bottom line is, it is really nice that we can wear a sweatshirt and sweatpants all day if we chose or sit down on the couch for a while to read a book to the kids or for a quick snuggle during the rat race of the day we have. That is what you would call a P-E-R-K!!!

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