Hi .... Before and after kids really are the worst and your right the pay for that is crap .... I only have one b and a and I wouldn't be disappointed if they left ..... However I have 5 full timers ranging in ages from 10 months to 3 .... Even the 3 yr old gets on my last nerve but I know he's only here till the end of June ( mom is a teacher) so I tolerate. The summers when I have my own school age home is very trying. Why not try toddlers for awoke and see if that's better. Good luck