I dont nec agree that it is not our job to potty train, I think potty training is a part of a 2-3 year olds life skills and if that 2-3 year old is in our care for a vast majority I do believe it is our job to help guide them and take part in the training of the child. Same as any other skill, writing name, knowing alphabet, putting on coat, tying shoes, etc. However...It is not our job to initiate the training, IF we feel the child is ready or at the age for beginning we can bring it up to the parent, BUT if the parent is not on board...we should not be the ones to start the work. Not to mention, if a parent will not work with us, and do the same we do at our home, when they have their child at home with them? Our efforts are void! Don't waste your time trying to teach a child something the parents will not promote. Not only are you wasting your time but you will end up quite frustrated in the end and develope hard feelings toward the parents and the child if you haven't already. The only thing you can do is suggest they work with her, and other than that...stick to your contracts or policy (develope one if you dont already have one) regarding the age at which a child must be trained to stay in your care. Nobody wants to change a 3-4 year olds poopy diaper, it's rediculous IMO, and laziness on the child and parents part...unless there is some sort of learning delay. (the child, not the parent) ha ha !
Chances are this child has no interest because the parents don't, IF you can get them on board, she will follow quick! If not, don't waste your efforts.